“Neither a borrower nor a lender be…,” is not Biblical, but is from Shakespeare’s play, Hamlet. In comparison to Biblical quotes, there is Proverbs 22:7 which says, “The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is slave to the lender.” Which in itself is a good reason not to be a borrower nor a lender. The spirit of the quotes relates more to how we interact with one another than whether we actually borrow or lend. Jesus made that clear in Luke 6:35 which says, “But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, hoping for nothing in return, and your reward will be great, and you will be the children of the highest; for God is kind to the unthankful and to the evil.”. If we lend our love to someone expecting love in return we will often be heart broken at the ungrateful borrower. If we borrow from the love of others, without having the same love in us, then we become nothing more than users. Let us freely give spiritual waters and not borrow what we ourselves cannot return. A hug is a simple act of lending and borrowing with mutual benefits instantaneously. From here begins this essay.
Everything we do is about our inner assets because our inner assets are what brings about results on the earth. If we are angry, it leads to negative costs externally, and if we are happy it brings about positive returns. The act of borrowing or lending is no exemption. Suppose that all the assets we have available to lend are within. Those assets consists of love, kindness, goodwill, peace, meekness, gentleness, faith, joy, goodness, patience, self-control, and perseverance. All of those internal qualities bring about constructive returns upon the earth, therefore should be given freely, not as a loan.
If a person borrows from compassionate resources and does not reciprocate, that person does not receive positive growth internally. Instead is considered to be a “user,” and even someone who is ill-intended and hateful towards those of a charitable spirit. That type of borrower is the cause of social deficits upon the earth. Likewise, borrowing tranquility from others without reciprocating is like a person who is bankrupt internally. They are known as being “annoying,” and cause negative returns on the earth through turbulent and harsh conflict. Furthermore, borrowing optimism and hope without returning the same is like a person who is best known as having a sour disposition. They seem to be void of good-faith intentions and the costs upon the earth consists of pessimistic despair and evil. At times, we may have said, or heard another say, “my patience has run dry.” Some people will borrow from your patience, self-control, and perseverance without reciprocating. They are like the mouse that tantalizes the cat. They cause the earth to develop with impatience, out-of-control responses, and fatal consequences.
In light of the above paragraphs, borrowing should only be done if there comes about a mutual benefit for the lender as well as the borrower. And lending should be done while expecting nothing in return. In this way, there will be the creation of positive returns upon the earth.
Reciprocal integrity between a borrower and a lender is to establish returns of emotional, mental, and physical health. In other words, borrowing and lending should not be a burden to a person’s thoughts, emotions, nor in what they do. When lending patience, self-control, and perseverance, we expect healthy results relating to the ability to endure. When a person borrows from those qualities without reciprocating they inflame impatience, out-of-control responses, and fatal endings. When we lend from our endurance, expect nothing in return except for the continuance of the eternal life that is within.
Reciprocal integrity between a borrower and lender establishes returns of tranquility in the home, at work, for our body, and stability from day to day. In other words, lending and borrowing should involve a since of relief, security, and peacefulness. When we lend meekness, gentleness, and peacefulness we would expect to experience still waters in return. When a person borrows from those peacemaking qualities, without intending to reciprocate, they are equivalent to trouble-makers. They cause the bankruptcy of violence, harshness, and aggression to appear outwardly. When you lend from a meek and gentle spirit of peace, expect nothing in return; but rejoice in knowing you create peace and not adding violence to violence.
Reciprocal integrity between a borrower and lender establishes a return of acceptance, inclusion, and belonging. In other words, borrowing and lending should enhance social relations. When lending goodwill, kindness, and love we would expect that a friendship or other positive response would return to us. When a person borrows from compassionate qualities, without intending to reciprocate, they bring intolerance, exclusion, and rejection upon the earth. They fuel the fires of hatred, ill-intent, and cruelty towards other human beings. Therefore, when we lend social graces, do not expect anything in return; but rejoice in the internal knowledge of being a constructive component that builds social bridges.
Reciprocal integrity between a borrower and lender establishes returns of respect, esteem, and worth. In other words, borrowing and lending should integrate mutual respect as well as self-respect. More importantly, it should honor the divine goodness living in the soul. With mutual respect, self-respect, and honor of the divinity of the soul comes magnificent rewards upon the earth. Some of those rewards are spiritual blossoms, internal peace, inner waters of life, as well as positive energy to stimulate the fruit of the spirit. Borrowers who intend no respect for others, self, or God will cause desolation to develop on the earth. Spiritual blossoms diminish, internal anguish results, the soul becomes dried and hardened, and negative energy prevails. Upon the earth is conflict. When we lend respect and divine qualities of the soul, expect nothing in return: but do it for the goodness of your own internal welfare.
Reciprocal integrity between a borrower and a lender establishes returns of positive stimulation. In other words, borrowing and lending should have positive results for everyone involved. When lending optimism and hope through joy, goodness, and faith, we expect returns of a positive nature. When a person borrows from optimistic qualities, without intending to reciprocate with gratefulness, they cause the bankruptcy leading to despair, pessimism, and evilness. Even so, when you lend optimism and hope expect nothing in return, but rejoice from the internal rewards you receive.
We can assess that borrowing and lending is a mutual act, even as hugging is a spiritual act of lending and borrowing. The diagnosis is that some people borrow from those spiritual qualities without any intentions to reciprocate. They create friction, tension, and conflict. Even so, we plan to lend while not expecting anything in return. We do that because as the seed of the spiritual fruit is freely given, the returns upon the earth improves much. We implement that plan by keeping the soft waters flowing in us, while avoiding hardened attitudes. We know we have successfully implanted the plan when we are able to freely share kindness, peace, joy, and patience. The rewards remain within us as we remain receptive to the divine goodness of our soul.
Some people want to deny you the opportunity to borrow and lend from spiritual qualities. They intend to prohibit the lender from distributing fruitful behaviors. Similarly, they intend to make the borrower a taker. They utilize anger, friction, and conflict towards those who intend to lend tranquility, and also towards the borrower whom desires to return the same tranquility to the lender. They do not want the mutual benefits of a meek and gentle spirit of peace to transpire between the lender and borrower. In addition, they express pessimism, despair, and sadness towards those who lend from spiritual values, and also towards the borrower who wants to return the same. They intend to impede mutual optimism and hope that comes when a borrower and lender shares faith, joy, and goodness with one another. Their idea of bargaining is to solicit all they can from your spiritual willingness while withholding any returns that should be forthcoming to the lender. They focus on taking advantage of the spiritual fruit. They will never accept spiritually mutual benefits of borrowing and lending as is seen in a simple hug.
There is a population of people in this world who share the same intent towards the spiritual act of lending and borrowing. (Instead of saying “intent,” perhaps I could use the word manifesto.) The attitudes that exit those reservoirs could be interpreted as behavioral modification through positive reinforcement and negative feedback. They give the most emotional support for the borrowers while giving negative feedback towards the intent to repay the lender. Their negative feedback is directed towards the borrowers to block their desire to lend to those who could benefit from a loan. Everything they do or say is to discourage a mutual exchange of the spiritual fruit. Hugging is not part of their manifesto. The soft water of life is a detriment to their purpose. Directly, those attitudes transfer through those with powerful influence who demand strict control over resources and human interaction. Hands are nailed to the wall. Indirectly, the attitudes are transferred through those who succumb to negative inflictions to stop lending from the spirit of the “Good Samaratin.” They begin to feed on the positive support that encourages a “me” and “mine” and “take” behavior.
What is it that enters a person’s emotions and thoughts to cause them to avoid the spiritual act of lending and borrowing? Much of it has to do with conforming to social pressure relating to positive reinforcement and negative feedback. To have friends, to feel accepted, and to be socially active might hinge on denouncing the mutual benefits of lending and borrowing spiritually. Social inclusion is positive reinforcement. Negative feedback consists of social scrutiny for sharing the hug that comes from fruitful borrowing and lending. Also, much of it has to do with our desire for praise, esteem, respect, and achievement. Part of the positive reinforcement is to make us feel influential, important, and esteemed as we scrutinize interactions that derive spiritual benefits from lending and borrowing. The negative feedback is in the form of disparagement, humiliation, destruction of self-image, and overall non-respect for the proverbial hug as we lend and borrow. In other words, connections come through social integration and mutual respect. Behavioral modification tactics attempts to adjust the attitudes we integrate with, as well as to adjust the behaviors we respect in one another.
What makes people susceptible to the virus that we should not be a borrower nor lender? For one, they believe various clichés such as “neither a lender nor a borrower be.” They follow external guidance instead of the spiritual fruit within themselves. Along with clichés, they succumb to positive reinforcement for not sharing in positive human interactions. Accordingly, they avoid negative annoyances by refraining from spiritually borrowing and lending. The behavior of the susceptible host is trained not to borrow nor to lend. They are those who avoid the human warmth that comes through exchanges such as hugs. In other words, the susceptible host focuses on the external material world instead of fellowship with the divinity of the soul.
We can interrupt the cycle that degenerates the act of spiritually borrowing and giving. We do that by following the fruit of the spirit that lives within us. The fruit within are soft, moist, and are the waters of life. That water keeps us compassionate, peaceful, optimistic, and persevering in positive interactions with one another. As we look inwardly, the return on investment upon the earth grows exponentially as we mutually borrow and lend of spiritual attitudes.